Take an honest look at where your relationship stands.
A calm, private set of questions drawn from decades of relationship science — Gottman's research on what makes couples last, attachment theory, and large longitudinal studies. It won't tell you what to do. It will help you see your relationship more clearly and start the conversations that matter.
A reflection, not a verdict
This is a conversation starter — never a diagnosis, a grade, or a prediction of whether you'll last.
One person, one moment
It reflects your view today. For the fullest picture, both partners can take it separately and compare.
Stays on your device
Your answers never leave this browser tab and are erased when you close it. Nothing is sent, saved, or shared.
Your safety comes first
If anything in your life feels unsafe, that matters more than any score here. Support is one tap away, anytime.
First, a few optional questions
These just help us word your reflection well. Every one is optional — skip any you like.
Relationship check-in questions
What your answers surfaced
Your relationship across eight areas
Reading this if you're weighing a big decision
Relationship research draws a useful line between issues that usually respond to effort and honest work, and patterns that tend to be more serious and deserve a deeper, unhurried conversation before any big commitment. Here's how today's answers sort — as a guide for reflection, never a ruling.
Please read: what this reflection is — and isn't ▾
- This is a tool for personal reflection and conversation. It is not a diagnosis, a clinical assessment, or professional advice, and it's not a substitute for a qualified therapist or counselor.
- Your result reflects one person's perceptions on one day — your answers as you entered them. It doesn't represent your partner's view or an objective truth.
- The number is not a prediction or a verdict. It cannot tell you whether to marry, stay, or leave, and it doesn't forecast whether your relationship will last.
- Patterns here are associations, not causes. A high score doesn't prove a relationship is healthy or safe; a low score can reflect a rough patch, stress, or simply an off day.
- Even the science has limits: the famous "90%+ divorce prediction" figures come from watching couples argue in a lab, not questionnaires, and researchers have shown those accuracy claims are overstated once applied to real populations. Treat this as a mirror, not a crystal ball.
- Only you decide what to do with this. Please talk important decisions over with people you trust, and where you can, a qualified professional.
Consider inviting your partner to take it on their own device, then comparing what each of you noticed. Comparing two honest reflections is often more valuable than either score alone.
Let's pause with extra care
Some of your answers suggest things may feel hard, tense, or unsafe right now. You deserve to feel safe and respected, and none of this is your fault. Your score is still shown below, but please read it as only a rough reflection — your wellbeing matters more than any number.
You know your own situation best. If the resources below feel useful, they're here for you. If things ever feel frightening or urgent, please reach out to someone you trust or one of these services.